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Current Mood:
Alarmed & 
Sad
First of all, if any one reading this is of the high school, junior high, or early college years please, please take note! Since high school I have had the same best friend. The good kind too; I’m referring to the kind that drives completely out of there way when you’re sick to check up and see if you’re getting any better, the kind that you can not see or talk to for long periods of time and pick up like there was no absence. I can honestly say my best friend would drive across the state if he thought I was in trouble and needed to be rescued. That’s right, the cat’s outta the bag… my best friend is a he. Most of you have an idea where this is going but for the ages I mentioned before- stay tuned!
You can tell we have a long history together. The problem is in high school he had a bit of a crush on me. I loved him to peices but it was only the platonic brotherly type of love- he loved me “romantically”. I never led him on and I was always very clear about our roles… FRIENDS!! Well, we still are best friends and indeed he still loves me (reassuring to know I haven’t lost all my charm in my old age!) This evening we talked just to catch up for a bit and he really gave me a reality check. In the midst of our casual conversation he said I’m like a black hole for hearts. He then proceeded to bring back up names of mutual friends I had a relationship with or casually dated and the moral of the story was- I crushed them all so much they STILL talk about what could have been. Maybe I should be flattered but I’m sad… In no way did I ever want to hurt any one or give them complexes.
For the ages noted earlier, key points are as follows!-
-There are no platonic “guy” friends, they are hoping to slide in under the radar!
-Be clear… if you don’t want a relationship say so RIGHT AWAY!!! if you do want one, don’t try to play the “no relationship” card to fool some one to fall madly in love– NEWSFLASH!!! it doesn’t happen you’re only setting yourself up for heartbreak.
-DATE!!!!!- date multiple people at once- you’re not cheating! don’t make any commitment until absolutely you are sure you’re ready, However, be up front tell them you are also dating their neighbor, best friend, co-worker, study buddy or whomever- they don’t talk enough to share that info until the worst time you have nothing to hide so BE UPFRONT!!!!
I hope this helps some one! Today was a long, horrible, icky day!! - which reminds me; at times don’t be afraid to get caught up in yourself. Pamper yourself just to feel that much better. It’s so easy to overwhelm our schedules with studying, work, family, friends, pets, and everything else under the sun except ourselves. Stay in bed an extra hour on your next day off, then get up, take a hot shower and just breathe…
Vee
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